So I went to the meditation service tonight at church. It helped a little.

Sandi, I've been churning through the loving honesty in your post -- it really got to me. My attitude has been "I'll try"....and not enough "I will do". You are right...as is everyone else. I know who I am and how far I have come. I know my heart and I know that it has grown and changed....no matter what she thinks my motivations are, or no matter what she thinks of me - she is wrong. I need to embrace that. I WILL embrace that. It is not ME anymore....this isn't about me.