So the way my house is built the walk in closet is directly over the bathroom below. I was in that bathroom clearing out a clog and I could hear my wife speaking to other man.
I was not actively listening, but I could hear her threatening him the way she does me.
That's not the point. She tells me she has not made up her mind etc. About the future.
Then I hear her tell him you have to understand where he's coming from, his wife stepped out on him do you understand that. Then she tells him I know about my husband and my past you don't have to bring it up and you don't have to bash him ( OM will not stop harping on our past abuses, mine in particular)
She then tells him if you don't let me talk I am hanging up on you.
Then she tells him I promise you i will honor the oath I made to you...( that hurts, what about the oath you made to me?)
Anyway now I did listen...she said to him, you have to understand I am just going through the motions, I've already promised you that when we divorce whether it's in six months or two years I promised you I will marry you and become your wife ( he has been essentially single for 20 years and he is 53).
I don't know if she's manipulating him, manipulating both, that is not important. I can see what is happening, but she and he focus on this entire abuse thing..
What are the chances of me really turning this around.
On one hand she tells me that she wants to do things with me etc like we are a couple, even buy gifts for our anniversary , we are not legally separated but she refuses to wear her wedding band.
I really am going to apply all the advice above and in DB ..
It's just hard to hear some of the things she says.
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W 53 H 51, S 16, S 21 33 years M 28 DD 3 Feb 11, 2014 S21 and His Fiancée move in with us 8/14 http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...965#Post2477965
