rutroe - MLC is not fun post #3

[bluesgal]

Hey Scooby-

Calm down and take one day at a time. Your posts sound like your mind is in overdrive. I remember those days. As the sitch continues, you will think less about it and your H and slowly start to take care of you. I wish I could have done that sooner, but I think it's all part of the process.

You've mentioned your attitude towards your H in recent posts. I know how you feel. Sometimes I feel like being nice and pleasant is excusing his bad choices and behavior, but I've gotten past that now. I know I am healthier than him and I try to forgive him each day. I know that by holding onto anger it is hurting me and my marriage and not bringing us back together. If you really want to stand for your M, then you need to be very strong and swing that focus back to you. You can come here and vent like you have been, but then need to find that PMA. It's tough and you'll have bad days, but I promise just faking a PMA will even make you feel better.

Your H is only thinking of himself. He is very confused right now. Don't worry about his threat of D. I've read many stories on here that have spouses that threaten D and never file. It sounds like you've prepared yourself legally in case he does. Until then, please take care of you and your kiddo's. He is missing out and he knows that. Be the best you. I honestly wish I would have taken that same advice much sooner, but glad to finally be there now. Let your H spin in MLC land.