At one point in time of another, my sitch had #'s 1-5. My h never mentioned divorce or separation, but did mention leaving a few times after bomb. He never did. He slept on our couch for about a year and a half.
My h would not admit to affair either. They usually don't, even when presented with evidence, while they are in crisis. The old "we're just good friends" line is total script.
I know it's hard, but try not to put too much stock into what he says. He says he is going to get a divorce - maybe he will, but maybe he won't. I find it interesting he keeps saying it to you over and over, almost like a child wanting a reaction from mommy. How do you usually react?
While you may not be ready to file or want to file, I highly suggest consulting a lawyer. Many give free consults. Find out what your rights are, write down questions you have, get answers. Do this for you and your kids.
They can get very paranoid while in the thick of things, plus quite angry. Detach from all of it, it is not you.
Keep GALing, not to p!ss him off, but because having a life outside of him is important. Keep on living and enjoying life with your children, family, and friends.
Keep posting
Bomb January 2012 - doesn't feel the same about me
~ "There is nothing love cannot face; there is no limit to its faith, hope, and endurance."
