Thanks Cadet I knew it was the wrong place.. We were and are confict avoiders. Seems quite unhealthy to me and leads to lots of problems.. He is stil, avoiding lots of issues.. doesnt even want to say out loud we are separated I see it is a problem but that is first of all me and also the conversation is going to end up being a relationship one..which it really is not the right time for
I would feel like I knew what was going on if he raised the issues that are obviously bothering him..lots of mind reading happening on my end which is not useful..I could maybe do something right if I knew what the issue was.. Or at least know what I am deciding not to do.. But again all about what I want..
Is there anyway to address this issue..without being a control freak...
