If she leaves a message, then it's not like you totally ignore it.......in case of an emergency situation. Listening to the message gives you a chance to evaluate if it requires a response. Just b/c she calls doesn't mean you must call back. And if it is something that does require a response, try to text it instead of talking over the phone. Keeps it a bit less personal by not hearing her voice......maybe? And keep the TM limited to as few words as possible.

I have read a lot of threads over the time I have been here, and I have seen that it seems to be such a struggle for the LBH to detach as long as there is back & forth contact with his WAW, it just seems to mess with his head! "why did she call........does it mean something more......etcl.". Face it, you guys will never figure us out, and if we happen to be a WAW, you sure 'nuff stay confused.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!