WAW...Again

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I have been thinking a lot about friendship today... My wife and I were and continue to be such great friends. This, to me, is the foundation a marriage is built upon. W and I continue to get along great. One of the vets on another post had said that getting along so well likes this provides the LBS with opportunities to shine for the WAS...opportunities for the WAS to see what he/she will be missing. Sometimes I wonder though. This isn't a pursuit situation, because my W wants me to do thing with her...and it is a major 180 for me to accept and say yes, because I used to almost always turn her down.

An example, W texted me last night to say her friend from work was coming home with her to hang out for a little bit (Friend knows what's going on between us). When they got to the house I built a fire in the firepit for them and then asked W if she wanted me to leave them alone so they could hang out and have some "girl talk". W said no, that she had invited F over so that we could all spend some time together and she wanted me to stay. So I did, and we had a great time.

Another example, W and kids go to her parents every Monday for dinner. I almost always decline to come. As a 180, the past few weeks I have been expressing interest in coming ("I would love to accompany you and the kids to your parents, but I completely understand and don't mind if you want to have some alone time with your folks.") Each time, W has said she wants me to come, and we all end up having a great time.

It just seems weird... W has expressed several times that I've become the H she always wanted...but when the R comes up (brought up by her, not me) she also makes it clear that she hasn't changed her mind, too little/too late, doesn't believe the changes will stick, etc. She has expressed fear, however, that the changes MIGHT stick and then some other woman will "snatch" me up.

So I wonder...does this mean I'm squarely in the friend zone...and is this a good thing or a bad thing?