KdogGS Journey Part V- Settlement

[KdogGS]

I'm in a bit of a conundrum unrelated to the divorce. I work for a big organization and periodically people from other lines of business come sit in and shadow our job function to see if they may want to transition to other areas of the company. I had a young lady sit with me a couple of weeks ago, and it was evident to both of us that there was instant chemistry.

She is in a 3.5 year on and off relationship, where she lives with her boyfriend. I know we have already had an emotional affair, nothing physical has happened. She keeps saying "We're just friends" but we meet for lunch, and outside of work, and of course she won't tell her bf about her new "friend."

Last night, I called her and said she needed to figure out how she feels about him, because I respect her and him and don't want to be a home-wrecker. I left that call feeling a bit down, but had a good rest of my evening. This morning, she texts me again saying "can we be text buddies for just onnnneee more day."

I mean it's obvious she likes me, she admitted if she were single she would like to see where a relationship would go. I already tried to do the right thing and break it off, even under the guise of "friendship" because I know it's an emotional affair, if I'm not allowed to text, and she can't tell her boyfriend/friends/family about me.

Should I just be firm on my stance? How would you approach it still leaving the door open for the future? This woman is pretty incredible so I don't want to be mean about it at all.