Loot and lawyers ...

[Train]

Asking what my "real plan" is suggests I'm being dishonest.

But to answer your question, I'm interested only in setting a boundary.

Why did *you* not refer to your H's OW by name? For me, it dignifies her. That might not make much sense. But in these situations, things aren't always logical. Emotions rule. But that's why many of us are here, yes? For support. This place gives me an area to come to where people will help. I can ask simple questions, and others draw on their experiences to provide support and answers. Preferably without being snarky or judgmental.

I will refer to her by name. Thanks for dropping by, gabbysmom.