Nero, I'm sorry you aren't feeling well. That bug is hitting many of the schools in my area and the coughing is terrible. Please take this time to get plenty of rest. You've had to deal w/a lot of stress and tension over the last couple of years, but more so in the last few months. Your body is telling you to slow down and let it rest a bit.
I wouldn't call your h while you are feeling ill. You aren't strong enough mentally, emotionally or physically right now to deal w/him and BS.
Death tends to bring out the evil in people, especially if they are family members "expecting" to get something from the estate. Don't take it personally if your family members become very greedy during the time of the reading of the will and splitting up the belongings, etc.
Please take care of yourself. For now, be greedy and do for you, for a change.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
