She moved home but still in love with OM!

[MrBond]

"I was trying to ask, what is the best way to approach my situation. I know she is cake eating."

To a degree. But you forgot what behaviors you exhibited during the M that got you to this point. She's at that point where she's undecisive because you are "safe" yet she can't be happy with you because you didn't see to her emotional needs like the OM does. Building that trust with you again will take time.

Right now she's on the "high" of the A. She used to have it with you, but over time, that faded and you didn't do much to rekindle it.

"The fight started originally because I was trying to detach a limitless more."

I didn't see where you were trying to detach. All I saw was you giving her an ultimatum of its you or nothing. That's what's bothering her.

"She wants me to do married couple activities with her , she tells me I am her best friend."

That is actually a good thing. Read the other sitches on here. Usually the WAS wants nothing more to do with the LBS and in some cases even has the LBS arrested for harassment.

"She wants to basically date me, but she's not willing to give up OM....yet."

That's because you haven't been presented as the better option ... yet. Why should she go back to you if things are the same? Wouldn't you leave a bad situation that you didn't feel would ever change? What change have you actually shown? You say you've read DB, but all I see is you concentrating on your W's A and not on yourself. And yet you are surprised when people on the other forums call your W a sl*t.

"Some of the things she said during phase two of the argument where almost a confession of the fact that we will never reconcile ."

By the time phase two of an argument occurs, all logic has already gone out the window and people are just acting out of emotion. You should have just stated things straight and to the point, validate her feelings where necessary and then end it.

"The problem was that the temper tantrum she was throwing was drawing me in , not pushing me away."

Don't blame her for this. YOU allowed yourself to participate. You could have just as easily told her that you both needed a breather and walked away. You're still not taking responsibility for your actions. You're still blaming her for the way you act.

It's the like the "abuse" comment. If you choose to see yourself as a victim, then you will remain a victim.