What I am doing proactively? : Difficult question as I feel I have hit a dead end.
so far over the last year: GAL: 1. Found an apartment within a month of being forced to leave 2. Started a new hobby - climbing/bouldering ( I have vertigo!) 3. being available for the kids when ever asked. (QT) 4. shared the new hobby with the kids ( WAW says kids really enjoy it) 5. Started going on day trips with people not from work ( meetups) in order to broaden my social circle 6. Tried to reduced communication with WAW in order to support the kids. 7. kept the finances the same so that the kids have a roof over their heads and all bills paid for. 8. Tried to establish bouandaries as to her control of my life. ( seems always to make things worse)
Things I am probably still doing wrong: 1. letting my WAW dictate when and how many of the children I am allowed to have at one time . ( 3 kids) 2. Still beliving every wordshes says about me especially the negative 3. Not having a clue what is proactive as from reading DB and DR what I think is procative is precisily what I should not do.(i.e. Begging etc. )
