Have I any hope...?

[bashy]

Apologies I didn't thank you for your first comments Nettles.
Well, I suppose not being a homebird and perhaps changing my work pattern to day shift instead of night (even though it's a drastic pay cut - although I would do this for our marrage).
As you picked up on, we hardly saw each other during the week then when the chance came at the weekend I would have rather sat in than go out. That is now changing but the problem is is that we no longer live together/are separated so how do I rectify this? All I can do is show that I am going out more with friends etc which I have been doing. The most recent was on Sunday when she asked what I was up to that day/night. I said I was going out. She asked who with. I said friends to a house party. Why is she asking that if she doesn't care? Or is she being polite?
Before I found this site I did the 'wrong' things. Asking her to reconsider, being needy etc. When I pushed too hard she said she didn't want to hurt my feelings but that she didn't fancy me anymore.
I found that difficult to take but hard to believe. We had been having a good sex life. Not the most adventurous but still regular and she seemed satisfied. Why have regular sex (which I didn't always push for) if she wasn't fancying me anymore?
These are questions I'm still struggling with but I'm trying to put to the back of my mind as I turn my life around.