The old marriage is dead and gone. Let it go as neither of you were happy. It's okay to concede that. It's crazy Not to concede that. AGREE with your h about the need for that marriage, to fade out... nothing to argue about there, is there? So let him see that you get it!
How do I do this? Just through my behavior? Is there any point at which it is appropriate to just validate and say, "I now understand why you had to leave. We couldn't go on the way we were. That was hard to accept at first since it wasn't a mutual decision. But I see things differently now. If I ever have the chance to start again with you, there are many things I'd do differently. I hope we have that chance, but regardless, I am making these changes for me and for the relationships I have in the future."
When, if ever, would I be able to say something like that?
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There is more, but I just wanted to suggest to you a few things you can do that do not cost a lot. Other than pilot training, most of these ^^ activities were free, or quite cheap.
I appreciate this, too, 25 years. But I have to say that I've done a lot of work coming to terms with the fact that I am an introvert-- which isn't necessarily a negative thing. But it does mean that while I enjoy the company of people I know, social situations do take a lot of energy for me. It's not that I'm "too busy", but I wouldn't have the energy (or desire) to be busy 24/7. I need quiet down time alone, as well.
