You're spinning way too fast, Matt. You gotta find a way (GAL, detach, PMA) to slow down and relax, or you will surely self destruct!
You didn't ask for this, but neither did she. It's something that was foisted on both of you. Keeping this in mind may help you stop blaming her, and seeing yourself as the victim.
We all are flattered to know someone fancies us. This doesn't mean we are going to jump in bed with 'em. The fact that your W is TELLING you about this stuff (as does mine) is a good sign. Do you think she would tell you if she was actually doing someone? Or seriously thinking about it?
I choose to be the friend my W feels comfortable opening up to. It seems to be working for us.
If it turns out she does cheat, you can deal with it then. No need to worry yourself bald about it now.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
