Loot and lawyers ...

[Train]

The more I'm thinking about it, the more I'm thinking I'll just stick to almost precisely what Starsky had stated.

I have already told H that I will not live in an open marriage; he can't have me *and* OW. So no need to rehash that. I've also already told him I will not discuss our relationship until he ends his A. (I no longer feel that one is a huge deal anyway; now that some time has passed, I'd be open to hearing him talk, but make no mistake, I won't be poking that bear!)

Here's what I have as a skeleton draft. But it could be perfect as is. As a writer, I tend to embellish TOO much at times. I don't necessarily want to come across as cold - and certainly not "coached" - but it seems placing a boundary might be a time when less is more ... or KISS.

Here's what I have drafted (thanks to Puppy/Starsky):

TrainMan,

The kids are excited that you're making plans to spend time with them here. I want the weekend to be enjoyable for all of us; thus the reason for setting the "ground rules" I mentioned the other day.

I know you and I both want what's best for the kids through everything, and I am thankful for that. In light of that, I'm going to ask that you not text OW or call her in front of the kids or me while you are here. D17 and S7 have both brought it up to me as being very upsetting to them.

I would also, of course, expect you not to text or otherwise communicate with her inside our family home like you have before. We need to help the kids through all of this. Communicating with her in front of us is disrespectful to me, to our marriage and to our family.

The kids said you're planning to head this way Friday. Keep us posted on your ETA that evening, and I'll have a parking pass waiting for you.

Safe travels,

Train