[SemperFi00]

It has been a while since I last posted on my own thread – guess I needed a break for awhile but sure didn’t expect it to be such a long one.

So much has happened in the last few months and also so little……………….. I continue to GAL, learn about detachment and grow stronger by the day (at least on most days that is how I feel).
• Nothing much has changed in W’s demeanor or outlook (at least not that she is sharing)
• We continue to move forward with finalizing adoption of our nephew
• We have attended two family weddings (one of which resulted with us driving from NH to GA thru a significant winter storm because of airport closings – that was interesting in and of itself. In a sort of National Lampoon way!)
• Working with S18 on prep for the SAT and college selection
• Spring has sprung in the great white north so able to begin getting out to do some yard work which I enjoy
• S16 won a state competition with his team and will be traveling to a global event at the end of May

All in all, not a bad few months just seems like more of same. I am beginning to wonder what if anything will change the situation and struggling with how to continue to stand for M while living with a WAW who has not physically left the house.

I find that I can detach better now and not ride the roller coaster but I sure at times feel really sad about the situation overall. And at times also wonder why W does not seem like an effort at building a new relationship is worthwhile. But who knows, tomorrow is a new day and feelings can change right???

Have been reading others’ threads over the past few days and something that has stood out to me a few times is the notion the LBS lose the respect of WAS by not standing up for themselves more and establishing stronger boundaries. In most cases this seems to come up when an active A is involved which is not my situation (at least not that I know of).

Not sure why exactly, but not feeling great about things right now and thought I would write here to try and see if that helps work some things out.

Thoughts, comments, 2x4s, reminders, jokes – all appreciated!