Upwards: One of my action steps towards my goal is to offer him compliments about his parenting (something he is not super confident about). So, it was related to that. I tended to be pretty controlling with regards to parenting (high anxiety and OCD/perfectionism issues), so it's a big 180 for me to ask for his advice on parenting, or to accept a suggestion from him and say, "Great idea" without saying, "Yes, I know I've already read all about that," or "no, that's not what the experts say" or something superior and obnoxious like that. I was always trying to get him to "read the books" or do x,y, or z... and he never would. But, now he is telling me about the articles he's reading and strategies he is trying. Good for him. Good for our d3.
