Great advice, Advina. Thank you for chiming in. We haven't started mediation yet. We are set to go in for the first go-through on Thursday. I am keeping my fingers crossed that we can get some resolution. I have been out of sorts, stressing over the fact that we are so far off from our wishes and expectations regarding the split. Her wants, my wants, and our willingness to negotiate is going to be a big obstacle. We aren't negotiating over much, literally primary household, child support/settlement and just a few household items.
I have been wound sooo tight, that I phoned and went off on STBXW today over something fairly trivial. A friend of mine notified me that OM has my daughters picture as his main profile photo on facebook. That wasn't acceptable to me. Before I thought about the outcome, I lashed out at STBX over the phone. I thought I had grown and moved away from doing those sorts of things, but there I went again....so discouraging. I did follow up and apologize, but that didn't change what I had already done.
