I had my coaching session with my DB coach this morning. We had not talked since December (wow, I cant believe how much time had passed). I went through the past couple of months, how we started to reconnect, ML a bunch of times, etc. So I caught her up and then talked about our most recent R conversation where I restated my boundaries since H was continuing his R with the OW and and where H confirmed that he was moving into his new place in May.
It was really nice to just talk to someone about these events, to see how far I have come and to get some affirmation that I am doing okay. She agreed with my boundaries. She said that she thinks that it came at a good time because my H admitted that there is a connection there. She said that it was good that he was able to see the good in me again, not just all the bad that he remembered to justify leaving. She also agreed that it was in the kids' best interest to not tell them what is going on until we know for sure what is going to happen (unless the ask in the meantime).
I really want to work really hard to enforce my boundaries and not let my H back in until he makes a real commitment. My life is so much more simple without him in it at the moment. Hopefully things will continue to improve.
I know that it will be hard when H moves next month. I had decided to not ask another word about the move. He previously asked if I wanted to come see him place, but I have no interest. Not sure why he even asked me that?? I actually dont even want to know which place is his because I literally have to drive past it every morning and night. I dont want to be tempted to snoop and see if someone else's car is parked there.
