5 months of heck...ugh

[AJM]

I haven't read your entire situation. I assure you it's no laughing matter what he's going through, but honestly if you didn't laugh at some of it, you'd be the one to break that last commandment

That struck a chord with me. I remember having those thoughts with my ex - was there a commandment she didn't break? I don't know how she treated her parents and she wasn't arrested for murder, so I'm guessing there's a few..

Did any of your spouses get this crazy?

LOL. You should really read the archives at some point. You'll find that crazy is a subjective term. You may also find that there are far worse out there than your H

Try not to feel bad about the way you feel. I remember feeling bad when my ex left. I felt bad because I was relieved she was gone. I felt guilty about feeling that way. Go figure...

And yes, the controlling part is a pain. But if you think about it, it actually does make a little sense - I mean, if your world was falling apart at the rivets wouldn't you try to control what you could? I submit that many of us do exactly that when the BD is delivered and then spend a lot of time learning not to control anything but ourselves.

Peace,
AJ