I wanted to move forward with building trust and bring up the book after were possibly in a better position.
I'm having a hard time being clear with this but I don't think you can keep secrets (on either side) and simultaneously build trust.
However there are some secrets we agree within ourselves to keep, but we deep six them, never to see the light of day. It doesn't seem you're there, so again think about your motive in talking with her. What do you need to know?
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
