You know, it may be a blessing in disguise that your H is directing his anger at your attorney - at least that deflects some of it off of YOU. (Too bad, though, that your H is too much of a whack job to hire his own attorney - I certainly hope the judge makes him pick up some of the attorney costs).
Good job on your finances! You might also look on a website called The Penny Hoarder for ideas on how to make small amounts of extra money. Also, don't forget to get a big change jar (or my bank, BofA, has something you can sign up for called "Keep the Change" - it rounds up all your debit card purchases, and puts the extra into your savings account.)
Meanwhile, how about focusing on your friendships? Why not have a potluck girls night at your house when the kids are at his place? Or foster a friendship with a single girlfriend? I don't hear you talking much about friends, I'm guessing those relationships suffered during the years you were married to this nut job, it's time to start building friendships you can count on.
