All of us have connections to our Xs. Some of us have direct frequent interactions through shared parenting, others not so much. We will all have events where we will be provided opportunities to interact with our Xs civilly. IMO, How well we accomplish that interaction is a measure of both parties maturity and growth to independence.
Although I am tempted to avoid or flee it is not in my nature to do so. I do not seek interaction or avoid it. Looking back to this past Christmas I was definitely uncomfortable at the family gathering. Late in January X left a nieces birthday party early. She may have been uncomfortable or the headache she professed may have needed attention.
In July we are both attending a baby shower (diapers and such) for the second grandchild. DIL asked if I’d permit X to attend and be in the house they are living in. After Mom passed they moved in until S gets orders. When they moved in I did not trust X and forbade her entrance into my house I still do not trust X, however this is about the children and grandchildren and attending a baby shower she will not be left alone for long periods of time.
I am not dating so she does not have to deal with that aspect of my moving on. Is she dating? I don’t care enough to try and find out.
This is where we find ourselves now. This is just a moment in time. How we perceive it and our future is up to us.
BITS Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55 D 30 S 27
You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill
