I understand about the boundaries... they are set up only to protect me. To state what is acceptable. He can do whatever he wants, that is his choice. I am not stating this to control him, but me.
and frankly, I am not sure if my Xbf has it in him to pursue. I feel that he would respect my suggestions to leave me alone, for fear of hurting me more.... this makes me sad.
I understand how in the past, I have been argumentative...because I would try to explain my point...to death. However, in this case ... since new thread, Im not seeing it.
I "think" people are suggesting that I am arguing over the point of Pearlharbr's strategy.... What I am saying is that I am surprised that a poster was offered tactics and a strategy.... And the BEST part is to realize that she grew from that strategy to a place where she valued herself. My point may have sounded like I was interested solely in the strategy and to apply the tactics to GET HIM BACK...
Can you please tell me what I am doing over and over and over again with Xbf? ..that needs to change?
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)
