just hangin around....

[dingo]

More of the same from my wife last night. She stopped by to pick up her golf clubs as her father is coming into town this weekend. I stayed busy doing little chores around the house while she was there - put my kayak rack on the car and took the kayak down from where it hangs in the garage. She sort of followed me around and made small talk/asked questions about what I had been up to. I was friendly with her, we laughed a bit and it was pretty pleasant.

Eventually she told me that her lawyer had been sick for the past 2 weeks and that I would be getting the settlement later this week. I asked her if she wanted me to respond right away and she started to cry and said yes. She made mention of the fact that we hadn't really talked much in the past month and that we didn't even say Happy Easter to each other and said that showed her that it wouldn't be hard for us to be out of each others' lives. I told her I would do as she asked.

She said she had gone to a friend's house for Easter and when I asked if the OM was there, her answer was 'he showed up later.'I asked her if they had spoken and hung out together and she said 'well we didn't ignore each other.' Told her I thought she was getting him out of her head so she could make the right decision about the marriage - 'i tried, i just really enjoy his company.'

So all of this and yet somehow, in her head, this decision is still all about our relationship and has nothing to do with him. She refuses to accept that she is leaving the marriage to be with someone else....