Thank you for your reply Starsky. Thanks for referring me to Pearharbrs thread.

1. I want to be coached!
2. I just read your post on boundaries. I feel I have stated mine. Then I was challenged here that I stated an ultimatum. I really want to stand behind my boundaries, see if he pursues, and NEVER waffle from that position.

My boundary: to be in an exclusive, committed, addressing issues with counselling/direction.

I would appreciate your direction/coaching...if you can spare the time.

Please tell me where I am arguing? I feel I have surrendered... and what I am doing over and over with BF... so that I can stop.

M:46 H:49 T:20yrs
myD:22
H distant summer/12
H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12
BD: Dec 2/12
asked me begin to move end of Jan/13
moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff)
"agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)