own buz 27: finances, travel, mediation : STFU !

[makingmagic]

Gabby and Bond,

Thanks for your help to this point.

Gabby ~ what do you feel that I am arguing about? If you don't want to hold my hand...thats ok. If the approach isn't a good fit for me, why did Starsky suggest it?

Bond... you insist that I am misunderstanding something, but fail to put into words that can actually help me. Telling me this over and over and over again does not.

I understand that you "see" it that way Bond, and its partly true.... but I also NEED this for my sanity. One needs to fake it till they make it... don't they?

Lets say I admit: I am prepared to use the strategy and tactics of Pearlharbr situation, because it HELPED HER to move forward....... whats the big deal in me being like her? ITs a beginning... a desire to WANT to move forward? Who cares what the motivation is...its the beginning. Hopefully it will move me to a better place...like it did her!

Please stop telling me that I am wrong... I am not wrong... it is blatant and even worded that her thread was PURE strategy and tactical. I am only the messenger! In the BEGINNING, she had motives and strategy was laid out for her step by step and with each interaction she had with him....in the END, her self-esteem was built and supported/directed mainly by Gucci and Puppy. Its strategy when even THEY call it that. Its strategy, when they use tactics from a WAS and apply it. Her situation changed after she followed instructions, then as she grew stronger...it evolved on its own.

I'd ask that you refrain from your constant knock me down position and instead offer a suggestion, a true piece of clear and direct suggestion. I asked you what you feel that I misunderstood, and you can't even tell me.

I understand what LRT is. I have been posting significant changes in him/his behaviour over the past year. He has come a long way.... however, still not close enough yet. That is for my reference and to show his behaviours.

I am tired...YES... but I also realize that if I don't stand up here, I will continue to get more of his "I dunno" position while he admits to possible cake eating and in the process continue to accept his bait that keeps me "there" and on the hook for HIS comfort....not mine. So, its not really up for debate.... I must change direction.