afraid I have waited too long #3

[nit84]

How should I handle the fact that my W retained a L?

Should I let her approach me with information or since I see the bank accounts and know she wrote the check from one the account should I bring it up?

If I do bring it up what could I say?

"I saw you retained a L I'm sorry you felt that you needed to do that but I understand you are just doing what you think you need to for yourself."

Should I ask her what she feels will resolve this in the easiest manner?

She knows I may want to buy her out of the house and she says she no problem with that but I am sure what I offer will not a figure she will be happy with.

I also have started cleaning up outside and getting ready to do some flower planting and outdoor fixing up.

She insists that she cuts the grass, I have no issue with this except when I go near the shed I get questioned if I am cutting the grass, when I say no and ask her why she says cause she did it all last year and will do it again I agreed.

Then I asked her to show what some plants look like so I don't ruin them when I put my flowers in and she gets upset and says why bother?, I said cause I want to plant flowers and didn't want to mess up yours.

Then yesterday she cut the grass. I thanked her and said it looks great and asked about a digging tool and she said she hadn't seen it but why do I need it. I said I am digging out stump from the tree she had cut down last year

Without looking up she says Wow! I knew this was directed at me because the last 5 days I have been out in the yard doing things when she comes home and she is surprised and I think mad I am fixing up.

Any thoughts would be appreciated