own buz 27: finances, travel, mediation : STFU !

[MrBond]

"I am not looking at this like a strategy or a ploy to GET HIM BACK...when will you accept this?"

When you do.

"This is frustrating to have to keep proving that it is not my style."

You're the one who constantly feels like you have to "prove" yourself to others. To your XBF, the posters here, etc. You're still looking for validation from others.

"What I am doing...is saving my self value/respect...that I am just getting back!!!"

I see it as more like you're just getting tired of the situation. That's not the same as getting yourself back.

"All I am saying is that in Pearlharbr's threads ... a strategy is laid out... A clear, step by step strategy... That worked for HER... I like the direction of the strategy, as it helped move her along in her self value."

Boy are you wrong. She tried things and if they didn't work, she stopped doing it. That's not a strategy. In the end, she decided to give up when she had her self-esteem back and he came back to her. It wasn't a strategy. It's how her situation evolved on its own.

"I believe db even recommends the LRT."

You don't even understand what the LRT means. It means that you agree to the separation, which you've already done many times, and leave him alone and concentrate on your own life. You can't do that. You write about how close he sits to you, what he does, how he uses the bathroom, what he gets to buy, how many phone calls he makes, etc.

So in the end, you have'nt learned.