She moved home but still in love with OM!

[MrBond]

"o did tell her she needs therapy, she immediately puts it on me.."

That's not what I said. I said COUNSELING. NOT THERAPY. Counseling is getting healthy mentally. You told her "therapy" which implies that you think she's crazy. That's why you got the response you did.

" So I said, hey you laid out your sexual escapees to me with this guy, am I supposed to sit at home knowing my leagly matured wife is " greeting her man"

You essentially just called her a slut to her face.

"Boy the claws came out " I am not a cheater , don't you dare so I am a cheater, your an abuser"

What do you expect after what you said?

"This set me off no yelling no begging but i did rip her OM to threads verbally etc..
She insists I wring, he's not like that, yes he's had lots of wine but know of them are like me.....all fog speak."

You don't understand anything about "fog". She reacted because of what you said to her. That's not part of the fog. You initiated that response.