rereading the beginnings of Pearlharbr... again...
Yes, I may need a coach and firm direction..(step by step even), yes... hand holding... is Gucci even around? Bond says he was involved... were you involved too Starsky?
Sure, Pearls approach initially was to get positive reaction... BUT!! Her strength and listening skills in the beginning to specific direction is what got her end results. I want that... Sure, she got her relationship back... but more importantly she got her self-respect back...in a big WAY. <<< I want THAT!!
If I get the guy in the end...bonus. If I get my self-respect and sanity back... HOORAY/ back hand springs & cartwheels !!!!
I believe db even recommends the LRT.... I guess I am there now, because I am willing to risk the outcome. My xbf has always wanted to remain friends, therefore I know I can always have his friendship if I want to. What I have to convince him (or better myself) of somehow, someway is that I'm not losing him - he's losing me - he's losing my love, my respect, and my friendship. (as quoted elsewhere).
I think I'm getting tired of waiting for him to "decide" about me/our relationship. Its almost degrading enabling him to "decide". My turn?
~~~~~~ drawing my line in the sand.
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)
