Loot and lawyers ...

[FindingPatience]

I've found it helpful to say to the kids "I don't control your dad" and then I try not to. When my kids tell me something bothers them, I let them know that they need to talk to their father directly and not through me. That's healthier for everyone in the long run. That being said, I also can't stand to be around him while he texts her, so I'm keeping him at arms length for my own sanity!