Acceptance...

[Live4myDay]

I sooo appreciate the comments. I opened up to this forum because I'm trying to recover...to survive the big D. I know he's not coming back...I know and accept it's over. I feel I struggle with this new dynamics and that's what concerns me at the moment and anticipate the upcoming events. I do not see nor talk to my X. My kids are adults and that is fine with me.

I have a great new life and am finally at a good place...some set backs I suppose, but for the most part I think I'm on my way.

I'd just like to hear how others have handled these incidents. Like I know he's most likely going to ask OW to get married... which I guess that;s the course it will go. He's moved on with his life and so be it. Like the picnic after S graduation, he wants to invite me and my side of family while OW is helping to host at his house.

I know I'm talking a lot about this but that's what I was needing the most help with. Am I in the wrong forum? I don't have any hope. I agree with JS that it is only setting up expectations. Screw that.

I have learned to have no agenda or expectations. I am my D caregiver and patience and agenda's go out the window, especially mine.

I could go on a talk about the other issues in my life such as caring for my disabled D or my dating adventures getting my feet wet. My X is like that splinter that just festers...he's in my D life and she is with me 24/7. Thank goodness he lives 1000 miles away!

Just looking for everyones great advice...thank you so much for listening.