When you suggested touch, it worked... how am I not getting it? There has been positive interaction from him for a long time...., you just said for me to change the way I interact with him.... so, I am. How is this not following and why are you belittling my growth?
I am not looking at this like a strategy or a ploy to GET HIM BACK...when will you accept this? This is frustrating to have to keep proving that it is not my style.
What I am doing...is saving my self value/respect...that I am just getting back!!!
All I am saying is that in Pearlharbr's threads ... a strategy is laid out... A clear, step by step strategy... That worked for HER... I like the direction of the strategy, as it helped move her along in her self value. That does NOT suggest that I would do it as a strategy to get him back.... Read what I said... its for my sanity!!!
With pearl, it was still the very early stages and she had not been receiving any positive interaction. She was guided by a very talented strategist, who knew how she could get results... fast. THEY were strategizing... Why is it ok for them to use tactics?
What do you suggest I do here now Bond? Do you like the Pearlharbr approach suggested? or do you believe I should still be "listening, validating, light touch, accepting offers"?
You seem to think that I am misunderstanding something... can you be specific?
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)
