also... Gabby... the whole pearl story is sooooo different and firm from the various advice I have received over time.....its time to change up my direction. See if that works. (advice given in db).

The advice given from Bond (listen, light touch, accept coffee/connection, watch baby steps, etc) is totally different than what Pearl was given.

The advice given from Job... get finances in order. <<<< still working on this.

The advice given to Pearlharbr is very different than Bond...its strict... hardly any waffling. Toss him to the curb effect. Treat him like I am the WAS, use those tactics. ALL Strategy. Step by step strategy... and it worked.

M:46 H:49 T:20yrs
myD:22
H distant summer/12
H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12
BD: Dec 2/12
asked me begin to move end of Jan/13
moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff)
"agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)