Thanks nyk and scooby. How is it they can be so cold one min. and look to us the next when they want something for themselves? Tonight my W had to go help her mom with her grandmother who they just moved into an assisted living facilty. My wife is a therapist at a rehab and works with people going through what her GM is now. She sat and talked to me for an hour telling me all the details, then talked more about how she has meetings at work and what she thinks she needs to do and how the other women feel and on and on about her. Not once did she ask about me or my day or my work but was just going on and asking what I thought of this or that. How can she not understand that the world isn't just about her and her problems? I'm not allowed to touch her, am the cause for all her problems and the reason she's not only unhappy now but has been for "years" but here she is going on and on. So, who is she going to talk to when she leaves. When she gets what she wants and is "on her own" who is she going to tell about her day and ask advice from?
She is so all about her and even told me if we were ever to reconnet, chances are VERY slim but IF it ever were to happen, she would have to take it very slow. I guess because she see's the changes but is so invested in ME being the cause of her problems she has convinced herself I must be faking being a caring husband even after she has told me she is leaving that she has to protect HERSELF from ME! Some nerve there from the woman who told me that "everyone hurts their kids, the'll get over it". Yes, we may hurt our kids but I don't know many people who do it knowingly! This from a woman who had to be a stay at home mother for 14 years and I had to work to make it happen!
Ugg! I wish there was a way to make them see just how wrong they are. What a fantasy!
