"I see this seems to work to open her up and make her feel I am not a threat (as I don't ask for anything in return)."
Yes but this does not include giving her massages and going out of your way to do things that benefit her all the time.
What happens is that there will be a time where she will tell you 'no' to a massage and you will end up feeling humiliated and used. At that point you would have no one to blame but yourself.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
I haven't posted in a while but I wanted to update I just found out she is talking to a man she flirted with a year and a half ago. Back then it was just friendly.
So all this time she has been hiding the fact she is talking to him (she has only seen him physically twice in the past 3 months) but I have proof.
She knows I suspect and I am tempted to approach her.
Thoughts?
Manuel.
Me: 37, WAW 33, M 13 years Kids: Boy: 4, Girl: 8 Separated: 10/24/13 DB since: 12/14/13 Big D talk started: 1/1/14 (Not served yet) Still living together/Separate rooms
Me: 37, WAW 33, M 13 years Kids: Boy: 4, Girl: 8 Separated: 10/24/13 DB since: 12/14/13 Big D talk started: 1/1/14 (Not served yet) Still living together/Separate rooms
From what I heard so far, the best advice according to DB is to not bring it up. My guess is you can push her further away and you can get all emotionally worked up over it if you instigate.
At all times be the man/woman a spouse would never leave.
"Don't chase people. Be yourself, do your own thing, and work hard. The right people - the ones who really belong in your life - will come to you. And stay." ~ Will Smith
