new here. is DB even worth it?

[KGirl]

Claire - re: your H being too stubborn/not willing to swallow his pride to stop the D train, I completely understand and I worry about the same thing. My H has outright said things like "changing my decision would be a sign of weakness" and "If I change my mind it will be like you won and you made me do it." How I think about that is that if my H is truly so stubborn that he'd rather stick with his decision despite reservations, that that's ultimately not going to be the type of person I want in my life, anyways. And on the hopeful side, they made a decision to marry us, and they changed that, right? So they could very well change their certainty about this decision, too. That's why keeping the road home smooth is important - don't burn too many bridges or reveal too much to friends and family that would have to be "taken back," for example.