Wife in MLC and getting ready to go!

[nyk]

Hye Matt,
Your latest post reminded me of my family's last significant outing.
We were separated in house last december and my w's cousin (who I am very close to) invited us to see an Olympic qualifying event for bobsledding. Awesome opportunity as I was full on in rescue mode and allowimg my MLC wife to call all the shots. She drove in a storm to the event and we had a great day. She and I interacted little, but we had a nice day and her cousin gave me some great encouragement as their r was bouncing back from a rocky stretch. They almost split, but they both worked at the problems and were in a much better place.

I now realize that we were not there. I had hoped that her interaction with her cousin's wife that day would lead to some sensibility and help get her to recommit to our family. Did not happen.

They are not in their right mind...I think they truly believe this is our fault, or at least there is no hope for change.

The hardest part is that now we know we need to change and why, but they are done...at least for now. I have started to tell friends and relatives who are concerned that I will be in a better relationship someday, either with current w or someone else.

You are a good person, one who cares for his family and wants to make things better. Doesn't always make sleeping at night easier (I still pop up at 2:30 every morning unless I go to bed at 12:30) but it is the truth- my truth and hopefully yours too...