Funeral for a husband, love lies bleeding

[cczamo]

Well this DB and being positive w/ my interactions is not as easy as I'd expected. I just hung up on my STBX when after I'd asked for copies of the latest invoices of satellite, internet and telephone providers that I'm supposed to take over, H indicated that this was all so simple, but that he should have known it would be too complicated for me to handle. Actually, H insulted me more than that, but that's the shortened, paraphrased version. I just hung up on him, and immediately sent him an email (which he does not want to communicate via, since it "documents" our conversation) that said "Going forward I will NOT remain in any discussion where I am insulted. Discussion will terminate immediately upon your turning the discussion to insults."

Probably should have been upbeat and positive in a response to turn conversation around, such as "I understand that you think i'm incapable of handling a simple task, and that I'm stupid." But the CPA in me wanted to potentially get a bundled service of all three (land line, internet and cable) rather than just take over his three different providers.

So I need to be better prepared in future to absorb his insults, and not take it personally, but not react. Rather, respond.

I'm better now. Thanks for putting up w/ my venting.