Were the two complaints (too much time on your hobbies and not getting your chores completed in a timely manner) the only thing your W could come up with? That caused her to feel "done"?

Let me ask some more questions. How long have you been together? What are your ages? How many kids and their ages?

Have you noticed anything different or unusual about your W? New hair style/color, dressing differently, staying on her cell/computer excessively, staying out more, seems preoccupied?

You said you had gotten the SSM book several years ago. Did things ever change for the better afterwards?

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!