Been thinking a lot about this... About how expectations are expectations, regardless of whether they're about the relationship specifically or not. From a DB perspective, I need to abandon any expectations at all at this stage...especially if I'm dealing with what sometimes seems like an "anytime MLC".

As an epilogue of sorts to last night's events, W and I had lunch plans for today that I assumed she would want to cancel, but she brought up that she still wanted to go and subsequently W apologized sincerely for her behavior and for hurting me (her word not mine). Lunch was enjoyable and from our current interaction one wouldn't suspect any conflict happened the night before.

I think I need to more on top of my own thoughts, behaviors, and responses.

H: 43
W: 37
M: 11 years
T: 12 years
S: 11
D: 8
ILYBINILWY, "I want to move out" and "I want a divorce": 3/23/14
MC started: 9/22/14
Affair and past infidelity discovered: 9/26/14
Piecing: 10/20/14