Acceptance...

[JustStunned]

Yeah, NE Ohio born and raised except for a few years wearing green.

I wasn’t so much giving a weather report as using the changes to illustrate change and finding joy to focus on, carrying one through dreary periods. We all have them. Staying motivated and upbeat helps maintain a positive mindset and a positive mindset helps to stay motivated and upbeat. It is a positive feedback loop and one worth maintaining.

I realize I have to mentally force myself to gain a different perspective. I can't agonize over the upcoming event. It's just the heart backslides into thinking we should be a family...almost sabotaging my efforts. He may or may not realize someday what the big picture will expose.

I too believe she has created strife and drama that is rising to bite her, but that cannot be my focus and I cannot wait for her to realize the magnitude of her errors.

I believe, we must make a life for ourselves independent of ties to our Xs. That is where our focus should be. That is how we move forward. We cannot wait for them. Waiting doesn’t help us or them grow. Waiting makes for stagnation and while we wait doubt creeps in tearing down the gains we’ve made.

Reflect, appreciate and rest certainly, just don’t wait. Waiting includes expectations and it is the unrealized expectations that tear at the heart.

This is my perception. I do not perceive your motivations for suggesting your X spend Easter with D were in anyone’s best interest. I apologize if that gives offense.

I whole heartily suggest embracing exercise and doing things that interest you for your betterment.

Finding a good counselor, one that will challenge and help one grow is a good path to walk while one is making changes. I obtained referrals from the EAP program at work and asked my doctor questions. I told my doctor to put the prescription pad away as I believe guided counseling was more appropriate for me.