Just a little adjustment here, distance yourself because that's what the WAS wants and it's the right thing to do for you. By taking an action and expecting an outcome involving another person we're back to our old controlling selves, trying to manipulate an outcome.

The change has to be within you.

(there are many here with different opinions on this, this is mine)

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss