Going Crazy!!! Here is my story.....

[Bunches]

I personally wouldn't think if you have spent years with an "open marriage" that attempting to date others would get any attention at this point. It sounds to me that your 180's should be on things you haven't been doing, like cleaning up after yourself in the kitchen. But be careful not to move too far too fast. You could quickly give the idea you are just changing habits to get attention. You might want to try looking into Five Love Languages book. Not sure, but if your W reacted so well to fry pan you might find that book to help your in expressing love in the ways more suited to her.