Pearl was fed up with your boyfriend's lack of commitment, and his infidelity. Yes, she of course was interested to see if she even MATTERED to him, and how he would react to her laying the hard boundary ("this is what I need in a man; whether or not that's YOU, you need to let me know"). But she was also genuinely DONE with things as they were, and she was fully prepared to move on if he didn't respond with what she needed in the relationship.
More importantly, as he continued to waffle and throw some crumbs, she HELD FIRM to her "Nope -- this is what I need; let me know if you can be that" boundary.
These weren't "tactics" to her, to try to win her BF back. These were genuine expressions of where she was, and effective communication of her new commitment boundaries.
