new here. is DB even worth it?

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I sometimes wonder the same thing: why am I trying so hard? My IC (who I no longer see for a multitude of reasons) actually said to me, "Do you really want to be with someone who doesn't love you?" She did not seem to be onboard with my efforts to try to save my M.

He is moving on from me so easily.

This ^^^^^ is mindreading. During one of our R talks (which I'm now doing my best to avoid, I said something like, "You are just out there enjoying your single life." My H responded, immediately and seemingly sincerely, "who says I'm enjoying it?" You don't know that this is easy for him.

I think these second-guessing kind of thoughts are normal. I'm trying to sit with them when they occur. My guess is that if I get to the point that I'm really done, I'll know. So far, these thoughts tend to be fleeting for me.