Wife wants a divorce

[VFL]

Didn't talk to my father in law today. I'll call him sometime tomorrow.

Today was another nice day, although I was only around them for about an hour and a half. They went down to her dad and step-mom's this weekend for Easter since I had to work this weekend. Had a few phone conversations fri, sat and sun primarily with my daughter though. The panicking side of me says she doesn't want to talk to me but the rational side says she's just busy talking to her dad (they are extremely close, closer than usual I believe because her mom passed away 18 years ago).

When they got home today I gave my daughter a scooter my parents bought and an Easter basket my sister made for her. she was fine with the basket but had an issue with the scooter. We had made a rule that if it didn't fit in or right around an Easter basket then she wouldn't get it. We didn't want Easter going overboard and becoming another Christmas. So that's fine, I understand and agree with that. But our daughter propped the scooter against the back of one of the chairs and my wife was telling her not to do that it will scratch the chair. Then stopped and told me it doesn't matter that they are mine anyway. so that hurt hearing that.

I'm dressed much nicer than usual today (khakis, button up shirt and dress shoes). She loves/loved when i dressed like that so i thought she would notice, and she may have but didn't mention it. i didn't really dress like this for her, i just felt like it because of Easter and all.

Later on she mentions our daughters winter break (that's when we usually take a vacation). She still wants to go on vacations together as a family. Feels that's important that our daughter sees us together like that. Carefree, no schedules, getting along, etc. But we've been talking about taking her to Sea World for a while now, and she mentions that. Said you can have lunch or dinner with Shamu and there are lots of other things to do. Said we would go to Sea World for 2 days so we wouldn't be hurried to do everything in one day.

I mention Winter, the dolphin from the movie 'Dolphin Tale' is in Clearwater. only about 1.5 hours away and she agrees that's a possibility. It's hard understanding how she can dislike me enough to divorce me but still be with me for extended periods of time. I'm terrified of bringing this up though, because I'm afraid she'll just say ok never mind then, we won't go.

I know hindsight is 20/20 but I wish I would've DB'd last year when she was willing to reconcile. But I didn't know she was willing to reconcile and I thought she was happy with the way things were. I guess my advise to anyone would be DB at the first mention of divorce. Instead of brushing it off as just something that was said in the heat of an argument. but i guess if you're reading this then you're here and you already are DB'ing.

Still discouraged, but still DBing...