WH, Don't ever assume that his lawyer has had a discussion w/him about you being an idiot. It just might be that his lawyer thinks that he is the idiot and is enjoying getting money out of him for being a reference to him. Trust me when I say this....lawyers know when they have the "big fish" and will get lots of money from them. They know when the "big fish" is having crisis because of the way their behavior. His on again/off again lawyer is enjoying sticking to him.
He doesn't like your lawyer because he's not backing down to your h's idle threats. WH, it just might be to your advantage to call his bluff and take it to trial. If he finds that you are more than willing to do this, he just might back down. You have to remember that he's playing the bully on the playground right now and the only way to get what he wants is to make threats. If he can't get what he wants one way, he's going to try another. Your attorney knows how to make the playing field even and I don't think your lawyer is going to allow your h to bully him any more than necessary. I certainly wouldn't want to go up against your lawyer.
Bottom line...don't believe on word he tells you about what his lawyer has said about you or your lawyer. Your h is the idiot here.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
